Sunday, October 12th, 2008

Have you had success from online dating sites?

So, what kind of success has anyone had from online dating sites. im not the most aggressive person when it comes to dating… actually quite reserved and shy. i am thinking about trying online dating sites, because i would think it would be a bit easier. anyway, im wondering what sites are the best, what ones are better then others, and if its actually worth it. im actually looking for a serious relationship, something meaningful. so, let me know. Thanks…

supremyecy1, I've had good success with online dating. Nearly all are free to join and it's a fun way to flirt online. http://www.cutelocal.com It's exciting to see what other people post in thier profiles and allows me a change to check out the competition in my area.

Sunday, October 12th, 2008

Sick single and lonely?

Its not my son that scares guys away, They love him to death. I'll date a guy for two weeks and soon as they find out i have a tumor in my brain. They run the other way. (I'm not sure why but they seem to think I'm going to die soon.) Which isn't true last time I was at the doctors they said it gotten smaller and i'm doing well. People ask me all the time when are you going to die but I don't think about that. Anywho, When I tell these guys they feel bad and or pretend to and then tell me they don't want to date anymore. Leaving me heartbroke and in tears.

awww, sweetie i wouldn't tell them in such a short period of time. if you think you telling them about your condition is what's making the guys leave, then maybe you should wait a while and see how it goes from there. i think you just need to meet somebody who's man enough to handle this situation , those other men seem to be cowards and childish. well good luck to you.

Sunday, October 12th, 2008

How many rebound relationships does a recently divorcee have?

I keep hearing that a person that get divorced will at some point have a rebound relationship. How long does a rebound relationship have to last for it to count as a rebound would you say? How many rebound relationships does a recently divorcee have- can they have more than one?

There is no real answer because a person can have rebound relationships the rest of their lives, or they can figure out what went wrong in a relationship - whether it was their fault or their partners that ended the relationship - and do things to change those things. A person might get into a relationship that lasts for years but if there is still a ghost from the prior relationship, the present one will either not work or will be painful for one or both.
A recent divorcee needs to ask questions of themselves and find the answers, and depending upon the answers, may well never have a rebound relationship but rather one that works.

Sunday, October 12th, 2008

What would think about dating a single dad with three kids?

What would think about dating a single dad with three kids? (say he didn’t have full custody,say the kids were all under 10 yrs old, all the kids are from the same mom and they are divorced) Would you not be interested once you found that out: if so- why?

I would be careful there is a reason he is no longer with the mother and children. I'm not saying he is bad it could have been more her than him but I always say there are two sides to story and it takes both to get divorced. I have never seen a divorce that was all one sided. so my suggestion is see how he treats the kids watch how they act around him do they run play and have fun or are they scared of him do they act distant. watch closely kids don't take sides unless there is a reason. does he interact with them when he has them or are they just there. all these things are good to watch.
My dad was considered and still is one of the most wonderful people out there everyone that meets him thinks he is such a great guy they think my mom is the worst person alive because she divorced him after 27 years of marriage there was still 4 kids at home and so on how could she do this to him he is so wonderful and why has she turned all 10 kids against him yes they had 9 children of their own and adopted 3 but only 1 of the 3 stay in touch any how they say we are all so horrible for turning against him and taking moms side the thing that out sides don't see is he was abusive not just verbal but physical he broke my moms arm twice once by hitting her with the car because he was mad at her and once by throwing her down 16 stairs same thing mad. we always had bruises and bloody lips he would pull our hair so hard we lifted off the ground and had a bubble on our head for a week it would actually suck the skin off our head it sounded sick and hurt like heck. any how enough of that what I'm trying to say is if the kids take moms side and are scared of dad I would be careful but if they love dad and want to be with him this is a good sign because outsiders can never see what is going on inside the home. Me myself I was divorced and to tell you the truth even though I don't want to admit it. I was in the wrong as was he. He is a great guy but things just happened that split us up we were young in our 20's and it just did not work but I trust him with our son and they get along great so it just depends on the kids in my mind. also there are things like child support and being a step mom you have to think about I have my ex kids over all the time probaably more than my son goes to thier house I have no problem with it they are great kids and I really do love them almost as much as my own two boys but I also grew up in a home with lots and lots of siblings so I'm used to always having kids around as I was the oldest

Sunday, October 12th, 2008

Is there a search engine or site that allows people to browse multiple online dating companies, at 1 time?

Is there a search engine or site that allows people to browse multiple online dating companies, at 1 time? Or is there a site where I can research her email or name? I need to find out if my daughter has joined any more sites.

If she is underage -you can (should?) block the sites with parental control

If she is of age I don’t really think you should interfere - it is her life and I’m sorry if that sounds a bit rude it is not meant to.

Saturday, October 11th, 2008

Entertainment and Media Breaking Down Love and Relationships

The following article includes pertinent information that may cause you to reconsider what you thought you understood. The most important thing is to study with an open mind and be willing to revise your understanding if necessary.

If you find yourself confused by what you’ve read to this point, don’t despair. Everything should be crystal clear by the time you finish.

Media will argue when writers or protestors stand up and state what harm entertainment and media causes in love and relationships. While the source can argue the evidence and patterns trailing behind us proves them liars.

Entertainment today enforces sexuality and violence while breaking down the rules of honesty, trust, faithfulness, loyalty, self-control, et cetera. Couples today sit in front of television for hours, or listen to all types of music for hours instead of joining in family activities. Children today consume their time playing video games, listening to harmful music, and engaging in viewing of harmful television programs. While the media says we all have our own choices, it is difficult to make good choices when you turn on the television and nudity, violence, profanity, and other inhumane activities are going on, on every station turned.

Nowadays, television is beyond open. Many people will use the term open mind to get their way. Open-minded people will not engage in harmful viewing, behaviors, actions, sound, et cetera, rather this types of minds will utilize the tools that prevent them harm.

When couples spend hours watching harmful movies, listening to painful sounds, or else engaging in hours of video play they are not taking the time to live, learn and love.

Entertainment enforces behavior. If the entertainment is good then good results will come of the activity, or engaging. On the other hand, if entertainment is bad then harm will result. It may not appear obvious at the onset, but over the course of the relationship, the traces of harm will creep in and out of the cracks.

Examples of harm caused by inappropriate entertainment, which lead to the breakdown in relationships is visual in the following illustration: *A young mother joined in a relationship after giving birth to another child. The woman’s standards and belief was firm, while the husband’s degree of humane stooped to the level of today’s way of thinking. The mother traditional and submissive to the husband worked effortless to make the family arrangement work, while the children and husband joined in inhume viewing and behaviors of entertainments. Overtime the children became aggressive and acting out of violence each time rules were set in the household. The father inconsiderate and lacking the ability to love rarely helped the mother with discipline and control of the children’s behaviors, rather he enforced the wrongful conduct. Over time the woman after dishing out years of long-suffering, love, hope, et cetera fell into the charts of divorce when the husband committed adultery. The husband sold drugs, administered drugs, and solicited prostitution while encouraging the children to do the same. The children later appeared in court for criminal persecution, as well the husband landed in court facing charges against him. The family fell apart by divorce, lack of communication, inactive family participation, and harmful entertainment. While each family member came from broken homes, the mother had the wisdom (if only the others would listen) to make a productive relationship, while demonstrating true love.

As you can see, what you feed the mind comes out over time. The mind controls the body, including wellness, productivity, performance, et cetera. When the mind is fed garbage, it will gradually show in behaviors, case studies, patterns, habits, et cetera.

The term what you eat is who you, are, is not a joke. Rather it is a statement backed with evidence and truth. Likewise, what you put in the mind enforces what will come out over time. If you are spending hours on a couch watching movies, thus you are stating to your mate that the person is not interesting enough to move you to share time together. What is your mate doing that makes you feel this way? Sometimes a mate does nothing to enforce this negative reaction from the partner; rather it is their way of thinking, and their level of standards. When couples join to make love, they are joining to stand together through thickness and thin, better or worse, sickness and health until death says their love is no more.

This scenario is hypo-theorized since the content requested in this article is in original nature, thus quoting is not permitted. However, the story is illustrated from a real-life experience.

Sometimes it’s tough to sort out all the details related to this subject, but I’m positive you’ll have no trouble making sense of the information presented above.

Saturday, October 11th, 2008

8 Simple Guidelines for Successful Online Dating

Online dating is fun. You could meet new friends and expand your social circle. Better yet, you might find the match you’ve been looking for.

If you haven’t tried online dating yet, here are eight simple guidelines for your success.

1. Start slow.

Try searching on reputable online dating sites. You should look out for someone who is too good to be true on the first time. You should trust your instincts.

2. Protect yourself.

You should not reveal your true identity until you feel comfortable about doing so. Do not instantly give your full name, contact numbers, home address, and other details where others can check your profile. Get a free email address, such as Yahoo or Hotmail, and use this until you feel confident enough to give your “real” email address.

3. Exercise common sense and caution.

Practice caution in easily trusting other people. Use common sense in making decisions. Take your time in determining the person’s integrity and motives. Pay attention every time you communicate. It is human nature to trust first, but try to be objective to begin with.

4. Ask for a photo.

Ask for a photo of a prospective match, not just because you want to see if they are good-looking. If possible, ask for several photos in different settings: Formal, casual, outdoors, and indoors. In that way you would have an idea of what he or she looks like.

5. Do not just chat online.

An electronic chat would not suffice. Talk on the telephone to assess the social and communication skills of your date. Avoid calling from home. Try calling from a cell phone or a telephone booth. Only when you are completely comfortable should you give your home number.

6. Meet only when you are completely ready.

Meet only when you feel secure and ready to meet your online date. Do not feel obliged or persuaded to meet the other person, even if he or she insists, if you are not yet ready.

7. Check for danger.

If you decide to finally meet, pay close attention to any violent displays, intense frustration or moves to control or pressure you.

8. Meet only in a secure place.

When meeting your date, especially for the first time, meet him or her in a safe place. Tell a friend who your date is and your plans for the night. Set a time during your date where your friend can call you and ask if everything is okay.

It is better to be safe than sorry. Online dating has some perks and can be genuinely rewarding, but it is important to remember that it can have its pitfalls.

This article is free to re-publish.

Saturday, October 11th, 2008

Online Dating Advice

Online dating is a great way to meet many, many people that are looking for the same thing as you, a relationship, with online dating you can meet literally hundreds of people a week and you can do it all from the very same place, the comfort of your own home.

There are a number of things that make online dating appealing to people such as being comfortable, ease of use, you can be anonymous, great for people not good at holding conversations and a large amount of other great reasons. This article will tell you a few things you can do to make your experience with online dating services the best it can be.

Do your research, find out what the best online dating services are and find out as much as you can about them. You can find out details like this by asking friends and family who have used the services, asking on internet forums, searching google, reading articles, there are many ways you can find out what you need to know about a website, all you have to do is search for it and ask others.

Put a lot of effort into your profile. Your profile is a very important part of your account with an online dating service as it is the part that basically introduces you to people, other members will come along, read your profile and if they like what they read in it they will contact you. Having a great profile can really help to start and build solid relationships with people.

Be honest with people. One of the best qualities someone can have is honesty, be honest in everything you say in the online dating communities with both the service and other members, if you wish to form long term, strong relationships with people then it would be a very bad idea to lie to them, I’m sure you would not want them to do it to you. If you ever do not want to answer a question or give out some details, just let the other person know that you feel uncomfortable, this is a much better option than lying.

Be pleasant with other members. Everyone is in these communities for a reason, they want to meet nice people they can talk with and maybe build a relationship with, they do not want to take part in the community in which they have to deal with someone being very unpleasant with them and making comments that are uncalled for, be nice to people, even if they do not deserve it.

Most importantly, be yourself and have a good time, that is why these services are around, so get out there and get into online dating today.

Saturday, October 11th, 2008

Totally Free Online Dating Services

Totally free online dating services were designed for single people who are trying to meet their mates in a more unconventional way. However there are a few things people should pay attention to when considering to turn to online dating sites. First of all get information on the security of the site. There are sites that not only protect your confidentiality, but also insist on developing privacy policies.

The slightest information you may give away about yourself may jeopardize your anonymity and expose you to personal data disclosure. That’s why it is advisable that when you turn to totally free online dating services you create an email address that you will be using only for correspondence with your dates. This is not paranoia, it is personal security. You may choose to get more personal after at least two-month period of online dating, and uninterrupted communication.

There are people out there who think that being behind the computer screens enables them to do and say anything. Well, it doesn’t exactly work like that. One highly recommendable site providing totally free online dating services is http://www.true.com. It contains one of the largest criminal and marital databases on the Internet.

You feel a lot safer when you know that there is someone out there watching over your security. There are totally free online dating services that include the option of rating site members. By checking on the references of your date, you are one step away from failure with your date. Usually sites use particular rating scales according to various principles, usually dealing with member eligibility.

Think well about how much time you are determined to spend on the Internet using totally free online dating services. Sometimes they can give you addiction, and you may involuntarily come to neglect responsibilities towards family, work, and friends. Not to mention that online dating is neither a sport neither a desperate solution to find someone to share your life with.

If you feel miserable because you’re single, always try to see the bright side of your life. You don’t depend on these totally free online dating services that you’re using. Sites running online dating services make it easier for people to meet. They are intermediaries, but under no circumstance should your life evolve around the computer screen.

Totally free online dating services may prove just the right place to make friends, even if you don’t want to find a mate. Such online services have as a basic guiding principle the effort of making people get together and communicate. The site provides the frame, but you are the actor who has to play the role, to fill the content.

Thursday, October 9th, 2008

how to express my preference for thin women online dating sites ?

My preference is for thin women.

There is someone for everyone but my own type is thin.

How can I specify that online without evoking finger wags and hate ???

Just write a list of physical attribute you look for like: prefer someone who is asian, dark hair and slim.

By using the word PREFER you are not saying no to other types and its more subtle.

Who cares what others think - you are entitled to your preferences. I wrote that i prefer tall guys in my profile.

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